The new year is a popular time for people to think about what they want to create next. In the early stages of a new visions, it's a great idea to protect what's emerging (visions, ideas, plans) for the first few weeks especially. That means not sharing it with anyone, or being incredibly selective with who you share it with. Most people are well meaning, and would want to support you, but may not fully understand what you are attempting to do.
Some many not know how to hold that space for you without trying to fill it up with their concerns, ideas, advice, of fears during that delicate stage. They may not see the path laid out from where you are to where you want to be, and fear that it's unrealistic. They may ask premature questions, like, "How are you going to make that happen?" before that has unfolded within you. Sometimes they'lll try to give advice based on what worked for them, which may or many not be the way it works for you. Or, sometimes it can trigger their own fears, and they inadvertently express that in their concerns. Sometimes they may get into an evaluation state, and find the reasons they think it won't work.
There are so many ways well-meaning supportive friends and family members, and others, could contribute to an uprooting of what's emerging before you feel solid enough in it. So pick your confidantes and advisors carefully in the beginning, or hold off sharing until you feel more rooted in what's emerging. Once you are more rooted, and feel strong in your commitment - with discernment and resilience - then sharing it can be extremely helpful. That's when other's input and ideas can expand and refine - and yes-and - what you are doing.
There's no one right way as to when to share it, what parts to share, and who to share it with, so use your best judgement. Trust your intuitive sense. Pay attention to your internal feedback. If talking with someone puts you into a defensive or flight, fight, or freeze mode, they may not be the best person, or it may not be the best time. Not everyone closest to you may know how to be with what you are bringing in before it's more tangible. But if talking about it with someone helps you feel more inspired, passionate, alive, and excited about it, then go for it.
It is important in the early stages of a new emergence that isn't yet fully formed to protect it as you learn more about it, shape it, and cultivate it out into the world. Then, after it has roots it can withstand most anything. With all of that said, the good news is that if it is yours to do, no matter what anyone else says or does, you can of course still do it. And sometimes adversity actually helps strengthen your resolve. Most of the time, it's just easier after you feel stronger in it within yourself.
Michelle James ©2023
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