"If you give your gifts, people will be envious. The ones who are envious are the ones who are not giving their own gifts." ~ Micheal Meade
This theme just came up in a coaching session with a client last Friday (who has a family member having a hard time with her emergence) and is one of the things that can happen when you cultivate your creative source and start to bring your unique soul's gifts into the world, so it is worth mentioning here. The truth is some people in your life may be envious of your creative process unfolding as you begin to create and produce what's yours to do. That's only because they not in touch with, or fully expressing, their own unique gifts and path. Or, they may be used to relating to you in one way, and now are unsure how to connect with the more "vibrant" energized you. It's really not personal, even though it can feel that way.
When someone is not using their own gifts, they may criticize, belittle, or otherwise negate yours to try to bring you down, even pull away from you, or just feel bad around you without knowing why. At some point in every emergence process, someone you know will be uncomfortable when you follow your aliveness, and how they act depends on who they are and how their own inner feeling of disconnection or fear is related to why they're not cultivating and using their own gifts.
This may bring up feelings in you of sadness, anger, guilt or some way of contracting to try to make them feel better - some people even block their own creative process. The best thing you can do for that person - and yourself - is to bring forth your gifts anyway, no matter what, because most people you know won't feel bad or envious...they'll be inspired! Seeing you create and produce something new in the world often inspires them to bring out their own gifts. So don't focus on the the nay-sayers (which creates contraction energy), but instead focus on those you serve or desire to serve (which generates expansion energy) - those who will benefit - by you bringing out your creatively unique gifts into the world.
And if you ever find yourself feeling envious of anyone else, take some time to delve into why. Listen underneath the uncomfortable feelings for the real longing of your inner creative voice. The cure for that discomfort is to find and cultivate what is uniquely yours to give and offer in your unique way. In that, there can never be a comparison, and therefore no reason to feel envious. Your creative source contains what's unique to you. It needs you to not focus on the other person, and just focus inward into yourself. You can turn any feelings of envy, doubt, or fear into a creative invitation to focus on your own aliveness.
It's never too late to bring your magic into the world. People need that more than ever. And people you don't even know yet will come out of the woodwork and will be grateful for what you have to offer. There is no short cut, but you are worth the time, space, and attention for the journey of your creative self and creative soul.
Michelle James ©2020
The thing is that being on the receiving end of envy and destructive actions by others (who then deny them or the significance these actions have had and the real obstacles they have created) can actually be really crushing. It can be very hard to rediscover your love of what you do and why you are doing it when you know that you are dealing with obstacles that really didn't need to be thrown your way and only were because someone else wouldn't face up to the reality of their own feelings. It can be hard to get your head and your heart around this and it takes time. A lot of time. Dealing with practical damage can also take a long time to overcome. If indeed, you manage to do so.
Posted by: Maria | May 15, 2021 at 09:39 PM
Thanks so much for sharing, Maria. I agree it can be challenging to overcome obstacles (whether the actions or others or our own inner self talk) to doing what you want to do - that is why so many people are not doing work that fulfills them. It is hard in this world. we were not socialized to do work that feeds our soul. I also know it is possible to do. I have seen so many people overcome some unbelievably challenging obstacles - and destructive people - in service of following what is alive in them. It can be a hard path at times - and harder for some, but I believe it is always possible.
Posted by: Michelle | July 16, 2021 at 08:49 AM